Uncharted Waters; Need a Paddle

[MrBond]

She offered to spend Thanksgiving together. It was a nice gesture and you have to stop thinking of everything being about you and her. It's about your kids as well.

Think about it this way. When your kids are your age and start reminiscing about the holidays when they were growing up, they're just going to remember being with your W and that you chose to be with your boss.

You and your W are still a family. As long as you have children together, you will always be a family. Maybe not legally, but both of you have DNA in the kids. You are all family. If your W offered an olive branch for that, then IMO, you can do it and both of you give the kids a Thanksgiving they will enjoy with their mom and dad.