Wife just told me doesn't want to be married

[MrBond]

"Hey there how you doin how was work? All the time?"

Isn't that what you should be asking her anyway? You don't need to say it all the time, just when you want to.

Start by being nice. Act as if she was someone you wanted to get to know. What would you be doing? If you can't be nice without being cynical, then don't say anything.

She may not respond to it right away, but over time it will.

Look this isn't a science. Go with what you're comfortable with without overdoing it. She may respond, she may not. But it comes down to what kind of man do YOU want to be and not what kind of man SHE wants you to be.