I am not going to beat you up for your choices. Everyone makes choices and after we make those choices we determine if that was the best choice for us or not. Make your decisions based on what you want. I will make one point though don’t ever just give in to your W because she needs to respect you. If you just give in you lose any respect you had.
I would say for someone going dark you sure talk to your W more than I would suggest. Ignore everything unless it’s about the kids or finances and be slow on the finances. Just use good judgment.
How mysterious is telling her you are going to your bosses house for Thanksgiving? Why couldn’t you just said you already have plans? Heck they might have been with a super model yet you didn’t even make her a little curious. Be mysterious.
If my ex would ask me over for Thanksgiving so I could be around my youngest, I would say sorry I already have plans. She would then say oh going to your sisters? I would say no she has to work, I just have other plans and then I would let it die. We aren’t a family anymore why act like one? Think ahead and be mysterious.
My ex FIL is going on a hunting trip with me next week. He knows all I ever wanted to do was save my marriage. He has told me numerous times that he doesn’t want me to ever take his daughter back. Why do you think he tells me that? He told me last Christmas was the worst Christmas of his life. He was hurting just as bad as me and he still loves his daughter. You know what I figured out he just wanted me to live and live good. I can guarantee he knows divorce busting without ever reading the books. With age comes wisdom.
What does the ring really matter? This is her choice and you shouldn’t even concern yourself with what she does. Listen to yourself, IT DOES NOT MATTER! Detach, detach, detach!!!!!
You can do this!
Me 44 W 38 M 18 D 18 D 13 Bomb 10/21/2010 Divorced 7/19/2011 Just getting to the 7th inning!
