Wife just told me doesn't want to be married

[witz10]

1) You separated in May. Yes
2) Your wife's main complaints were:
a) financial -- you don't make enough money
b) support -- you did not put her above your family
c) financial & support -- you work for a family business she wants you out of YES TO ALL

3) W admitted to a crush, is currently spending time with OM, and did not deny sleeping with him, she says she is single. YEP
4) W has not yet asked for divorce, and you are taking that as a sign that you might reconcile HOPE SO
5) You are working well together as parents, you're still polite to each other and can have productive discussions about the kids. YES as well

Anything I'm missing? Any other complaints?
I don't think so.

[It would seem the biggest issues are finding a new job and establishing that you are able to put W above your family.]
I am still attempting to find a new line of work. I am sending resumes out pretty much everyday. If I want I can be stuck in a dead end job as a cable installer. A friend told me he could get me in. At this point I am debating that.

[Rule #1 in your situation should be "don't pursue!".]
The clothing and cologne were also suggested by my therapist he referred to it as Peacocking. Show her I look a little different to get noticed more.

[She needs to wonder what you're up to, and you should not volunteer it.] A woman I used to work with told me to say if my W asks if I can take the kids one night to say I can't I have a date. Which is the wrong thing to say instead I will say plans. Cause I am not dating as of now.

So when I leave at nights after dropping the kids off. Do a quick update and then leave. Should I even ask her about her day or work. In the past she has said it felt like I was lingering.


I hope I wasn't overly harsh Witz10, I am trying to help.
Nope thank you for the advice. Good advice is the best advice