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[workinghardguy]

Well... does this new information change anything? If he is going to rethink his decisions then perhaps it does. But otherwise I don't know that it matters much, at least to you.

Financially yes, of course it does. And you're going to have to make plans for him having less income. But that isn't all that different than if you were together. Yes, the two household expense thing is stupid, but you also can't control that.

As far as the job thing and decisions in the past... well, they're in the past. Woulda, coulda, shoulda... you can dwell on them and let them anger you but it's not going to help. It won't help you nor will it help the two of you. That anger and resentment will show.

I expect he will be very raw for a while. We men tend to associate ourselves very much with our jobs. Losing our job is quite a blow. But he dissociated himself from you. I think it's good you missed his call. He needs to deal with this with his big-boy pants on and alone. You are going to be busy enough dealing with the fallout from it.

If he reaches out it's up to you to listen or not... but I wouldn't be too available. Let him miss you. Let him miss someone to listen to him and be supportive of him.

And as far as what is he going to do... what are YOU going to do? That should really be your only concern. What are YOU going to do to deal with the effects you will face and to live your life.