This isn't MY thread -- and I know we don't traditionally do this, but I had just a minute at work and thought I'd see if we can get some ideas for coping with this first of the holiday season.
Personally, it will be my first Tgiving in 13 years without W and I together -- and I'm having a difficult time emotionally. I'm going to my family's, but that's pretty typical stuff. What I'd like to hear is if anyone has any really COOL plans of any sort to get through this period?
Share and discuss.......:)
Me (f): 45 W(f) 35 T: 13 y C: S4 adopted at birth 6-18-11 bomb: I want to break up 8-28-11 OW confirmed
I will be cooking for my extended family. H is supposed to come over and see the boys not sure if he plans on eating with us or what. I am dreading the holidays. I usually love Thanksgiving. I just want to wake up and it is January. If it wasn't for the boys I would just cancel the holidays.
I would love some ideas of how to get through this I was just planning on hanging out with my friend Bud. Me and Bud Light are pretty close these days.
I will be going to my parents house...Listening to them argue all day...My ex emailed me and told me I should go to her parents since she wont be there. That made me laugh.
I'll be visiting the in-laws with W and girls. Taking every opportunity to mention OM's name in casual conversation Ok - will be acting civil and having a good time with the girls. Hoping to get a final round of golf in on Fri or Sat, depending on if I can get my in-laws to look after the girls.
M47 W45 D10 (Has CP) D7 M12 T14 ILYBINILWY 5/1/11 Asked for seperation 5/10/11 Seriously DBing 7/1/11 W admitted to 2 EA's on 11/3/11. Evidence of PA 11/5/11 - Definite evidence of PA 11/20/11 D - Final 7/11/12
On my side of the family, it's only my Mom who lives 50 min. away and my brother who lives in Chicago (who won't be in town).
However, my Mom and are going to my Uncle's house about 2 hours away from me to spend time with him and his family. My Uncle is without question my biggest influence on all my physical activity. He is 70 years old and looks like he's in his 50s. He was also a LBS when his W left him for his running buddy. He's been married for over 20 years now to his second W. I am looking forward to it.
JS> W is cooking turkey and my D is making her mash potatoes as she did last year. She is becoming an awesome cook like her mom, who I taught how to cook . The guys at the club asked to go flying as the weather should be great. I will also put up the Xmas decorations. After I'm full and tired I will have a few Merlots and play some videos with D. I might also ride my bike this weekend. So much to do latetly. Have a great one
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
I only get the one day off from work, so I decided that it wasn't worth a four-hour drive to go back home only to go right back in a couple of hours. :P
My dad and my little sister might come up to take me out to dinner, but not if the pass to get there is too treacherous. If they can't swing it, I'll head out to a local restaurant and have a beer and a turkey dinner. It will mark the first time I've ever had T-Day alone.
Funny, my H wants to spend the day with his family. He has been rotten about being around our old friends. So I invited them all and told my H he could go out by himself if he didn't want to see our friends. Our sons, my DIL and our grandkids will also be here. H opted in.
That was a 180 for me, because I stood up for what has been my favorite holiday forever. I just didn't want my tradition ruined. This will be the 7th year we have had the same friends over. As a military brat, member and wife with so many moves that is the longest I have had the same friends.
I have adjusted my plans so many times in the past few years because my H doesn't want to be around people who are puzzeling over his MLC. Well my life is changing so much, and if H wants to continue with his plan to move on I need my friends!
I hope everyone has a wonderful Thanksgiving!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
