too much time and distance

[any chance?]

Update:
Been on a work trip for the past week of so...very busy so have not had much time to contemplate my sitch.

W visited her mom and sister last week, and had a very rough time of it. Her mother is in assisted living and is very infirm, and does not take very good care of herself. My W has a hard time dealing with her, and gets very disraught dealing with her. Talked to W on the phone last week, and she was very worked up and distraught. However she did manage to ask legal questions about the D process. Guess it is on her mind all the time.

Very little contact other than that. W is going to her friend's house for Thanksgiving. This friend is very enabling to my W and is determined to help my W forget about me and move on, up to the point of setting her up with other men. My W is very codependent on this friend, which is not good for me at all.

W has been gone 3.5 months today. Seems pretty clear to me she wants nothing to do with me, and that I am just part of her past. That is a part of this situation that I will never understand,and it is really messing with my head.

Making plans to go to a warm tropical destination for Xmas. Going to go solo, which will be very strange. But I have to do it. I have to move on.

Thanks for listening.