Clearing the air with your family is a good idea, but I'd strongly recommend against inviting your family into your M.
"Family -- I sense your concern. I need to ask you to back off and be happy for us. I understand that there are risks to reconciling, the possible benefits are worth it to me. I'm a big girl and I'll be OK. We are doing great. Thanks for being there for me over the summer. Now it is time for H and I to heal our R in our own space. In a very loving way, I need you to trust us, support us, and MYOB."
Back the H*LL off of being critical of his family. It is NOT good for your M or your DD or your H to go through life with his R with his family being in tatters. It sounds like you hardly ever see them. Change your attitude NOW, really, really, really.
Put your R with H first in your M. You, H, and DD all deserve that.
