Do I stay or do I go?

[Abbey]

VC, the detached comes and goes and is a process where you can slip and feel like complete crap. I guess I've been on the train once before, so I don't beat myself up about so much about the slips anymore.

Sometimes you have to give them their cake for a while... and then pull back in little areas.

FWIW, even when I don't cuddle with H on the couch... he'll eventually reach out. It's hard not to reach out and touch him... so I'll touch him for like 3 seconds and then pull back. He follows the dance.

I have decided to try to treat those little 3 seconds type touches as baby steps instead of R talks. They're seemingly so innocent, but they get used to the touch and human nature tends to push their brain to want the contact.