PA - Confirmed - Blinkers are off.

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Had a great night with friends.
Laughter is very medicinal and the sitch didn't come up once in conversation.

When I got home W was over friendly - not sure if this is because she had no idea where I went or because OM has dropped her over the weekend - TBH - who cares.

Last day of work for me this week - taking tomorrow off to go to D9's school to see "Turkey day parade". Thanksgiving will be spent with girls and W at my in-laws. I was invited by a friend to his house, but decided if this was to be a last Thanksgiving as a family I would rather spend it with the girls.

Going to be a little weird as mother-in-law knows about OM - maybe I should drop his name into the conversation at the dinner table - kidding.

Some dates are beginning to click with events of the last few months - e.g. the night before we had a huge row and I moved out for a week, texts indicate she was with OM.

I think (and hope) my snooping is done - I know folks here don't recommend doing it, but I was driving myself crazy wondering whether I was overreacting and being unreasonable. My gut told me there was someone else and I needed to know for certain. I think it's helped me detach - I don't like what she's done but know I was responsible for allowing this to happen, she was looking for someone to make her feel special and appreciated - it does not excuse her behavior and she has shown no indication that she wants to work things out. It's her gig - if she's happy with who she is then it's her life, I was going to say as long as it doesn't impact my girls - but it will, we all know that.

Peace.