Yes, I look at the past. Not to find blame but to see if things have changed. I've done a personal inventory on what I've been doing. The roles may seemed to have reversed, but I make sure our D is take care of.
This may sound crazy, but my sitch is similar to my in-laws. Did my W somehow manage to manipulate our R so its like her parents? No love in their R and dad does as he pleases. My MIL does what he tells her to do.
It looks our R is mirroring their R except I feel my W doesn't have any respect for me.
