JS - Continue to stick to your guns about the input vs. output. It sukks but she wanted this.. she needs to do the work.
Originally Posted By: JustStunned
So the challenge is how to be civil and handle myself with dignity and honor.
I'm glad you have a gameplan... and I think it's important to have.. but I think it's even more important that YOU believe in your changes.
I think that we sometimes get caught up in our own fear with it comes to communication with our spouse. It's like even though we work on ourselves for months.. it can all go away with one interaction with them.
The truth is that IF our changes have been for ourselves all along.. the fear WON'T happen. It can't happen because that person no longer exists.
I don't know the old JS, but I know this one. You act civil and honorable because that is who you are. Don't give STBX power to take that away from me.
You'll handle Turkey Day like a champ!
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
