Thanks for the advice, everybody. Guess it's just one of those things where you have to just do what feels right. It is all too true that no one method is a one-size-fits-all. I don't exactly know why I've chosen darkness over being friends. Maybe it's because my W doesn't seem to have a whole lot of respect for me or my feelings, or maybe it's because I can't stand hearing about how her life with OM is. Maybe it's a lot of different things rolled up into one.
Sorry if I'm hijacking. This looked like a free-for-all thread.
Abbey, I'm not going to lie -- it seems pretty likely that your H will wake up with all of this crazy OW behavior going on. You just keep being you! Glad to see that you've got such a positive attitude in the face of all this. Sometimes the gloom and doom over in the Newcomers section can get a little too overwhelming, so it's nice to see some sunny rays from people like you.
