It may be a matter of pheromones, or perhaps a matter of preferences. It can be a polite way of saying she thought you were too old for her, or too nice, or looked too much like her ex, or whatever. It's a mysterious thing, what attracts us to others - you just can't take it too personally. The very first guy I met, was nice-looking, age-appropriate, very smart (in a similar field) - we got along great. Just no romantic chemistry on either side. We became good friends - but nope, nuthin' ever changed.
The first boyfriend I had after the divorce, we met online but he lived far away - we didn't meet in person for a couple of months. When we did - spontaneous combustion. Great mutual attraction from the first moment. Just sheer luck on my part.
Don't sweat it - just tell yourself you're gonna go on fifty coffee dates and somewhere in there will be someone you have a mutual attraction with. AND DON'T TRY TOO HARD - scares us women off.
