wife won't admit PA with OM

[Accuray]

Wow Harrier, you were pretty lucky too. I did have the challenging "evidence discussion" with W at one point. Prior to having it I convinced myself that I could just do it once and be done with it.

Per Harrier's note, that didn't work, I really felt the same way after as I did before. I was able to better understand some of what I found, but I really didn't feel better about any of it, nor did I fully believe I had the truth.

Here's the next place you're going to go -- pretend you fully go through all the evidence you have. The next thing you're going to ask yourself is "What don't I know? What haven't I found?"

Then, you will start pestering W to reveal anything else that you might not have evidence for "what else aren't you telling me!" That will also drive you nuts for weeks. You might then find additional "evidence", confront W again, and she'll say she didn't tell you about it because she didn't think it was important, then you'll stew on that for weeks.

See the point? It's a merry-go-round that you just can't get off. There will *ALWAYS* be more questions, and you can't know everything. In addition, W has already altered her view of the past to be more comfortable with it, so she may no longer accurately remember what she has done or said. You just can't know. I have to get to the point where you accept it, or decide that you can't and move on, as Harrier suggests.

--Accuray