Peicing and hoping I'm doing the right thing.

[MynameisMZ]

Focus on the positive, focus on the loving things he tells you.
If I knew you in person I'd take you for a pedicure.
Be sure to do something nice for yourself.

I sure do know the feelings of distrust & thinking you're the brunt of their joke. I felt that too. I also felt like everyone in my H's company was looking at me as a poor pathetic soul. These A s seem to turn a perfectly good, solid, bold, strong woman into a puddle of self-doubt. This too shall pass.

Your self-doubt may be founded, but don't despair. I think you said you are very intuitive and usually right. Me too. Denial kicked in hard for me and so I didn't believe it for a long time, even though I had suspicions. Figured it was part of turning 50 and experiencing paranoia. In my story I tell how one of my best friends ran into my H and ow one day and she had same thoughts and she too told herself that she was just being 50 and paranoid, didn't want to cause trouble so didn't tell me.

Remember, IF he is still in contact, IGNORE it. If you find out, calmly and firmly tell him that your R can't possibly heal if she is still in the picture.

And for that ow.....she's breaking the sacred girlfriend code.....don't ever go after another woman's man ....or woman ;-)

What has he agreed to as far as piecing? It is early, however, not too early to have some agreements about transparency?