"Bond, I am intrigued that you say that you've seen the "friends" approach work many times. It seems that your advice toward LBS' in the Newcomers section points more towards creating distance and boundaries until the A "burns out.""
Just to clarify. When the bomb first drops, the LBS has a tendency to overcompensate. They are constantly in the WAS's face which is something they don't want.
Each sitch is different. In some cases, cutting off all contact with the WAS is the way to go. In some, the OP is like a band-aid, a temporary fix. In those cases, the WAS shows some feelings towards the LBS. For those, it would be best to be their friend, but not overly so. Either way, you don't go out of your way to constantly be there.
You build yourself up first to fix your damaged self-esteem and think of the WAS second. There are a number of times I've seen the A burn out. But there is no perfect formula.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
