Journaling: A couple of posts back I mentioned I was invited to Thanksgiving at one of my SIL’s homes. The invitation was tentative as it came from a SIL other than the host. I have three SILs.

On Saturday I spoke with the SIL hosting Thanksgiving. I am invited. I did not initiate the invitation. She wanted to confirm I would be present. I take this as positive reinforcement of my actions through this debacle.

There is some drama brewing over in STBX’s camp. It is tiresome.

In September we had a sit down meeting with the Ls present. Her L took notes. During the meeting we all agreed to accomplish several items. After accomplishing our tasks my L was to draft a proposal.

STBX is now prodding for a rapid advance on the disillusion proposal. What causes drama here is STBX and her L have not completed what is needed to move this forward. STBX is expecting output without providing input. The drama this causes has been minimally felt. It is not affecting my day to day nor am I losing sleep over it.

I meet with my L next week to draft a proposal based on what notes we have. With the upcoming holidays and lack of input from STBX I expect this to drag on into next year with counter proposals. In the mean time I will maintain positive contact with her family. To aid me I have requested a coaching session.

I finished the coaching session. We discussed various potential scenarios should STBX and I be present at Thanksgiving. I think it is an even money chance she’ll show up. So the challenge is how to be civil and handle myself with dignity and honor. It has been helpful to discuss the various what ifs with a neutral third party, and get advice on potential actions.

I have accomplished what preparations I can. I’ll go over it at least one more time before Thanksgiving. In the mean time I have a life to live

BITS
Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55
D 30
S 27

You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill