For my situation, I know that this was more than "just friends" and may be defined as an EA at a minimum. Hundreds of texts per day and tons of minutes on the phone and calls placed as soon as I'm not around tell me that it wasn't just physical attraction or one night stand.
I discovered my H was sending a female coworker over hundred text messages a day for 3 months. As soon as I would leave for work, he would text her. And I got the same speech, "WE ARE JUST FRIENDS." We had separated lasty year, he told me he did not want to hear from me at all. The entire time he was gone, they were texting back and forth all day long and everyday.
She told me that their "friendship" started because she liked talking to him and getting his viewpoint on things that were going on with her life. She even said that if she was able to talk to me then she wouldn't have had to talk to him. That doesn't really bother me if it ends there, because we are working on fixing that now. However, I have evidence that some would say is murky/unclear and others would say is crystal-clear that a PA was going on. That's what is really hurting me.
He told me the exact same thing.
It will take to time to get over it. He moved back in last year after 3 weeks of separation and I never forgave him for it and it ate me up. And now we have been separated for 4 1/2 months and I am finally healing from it. I made the mistake by letting him move back last year, but I haven't this time. Only time will heal you. I have decided to put all that behind me and move forward.
