I hear you on the separate accounts but there are a couple of reasons why I can't. First and foremost- no money. He still pays for the phone and I simply can not afford it. Second, I think he would view that as a huge negative, like I was trying to hide something. He has checked my phone records as recently as last week, so if I suddenly got a new plan it was cause a big stink.
Yesterday was a mixed bag. We were having a good time, and I could tell D was loving having her family together.
H was playing with D and I told him to hand me his phone and I would take a picture. Unfortunately, when I pulled up his phone he had his texts pulled up. Of course, now I know who all of the texts and late night calls were to. And I swear I wasn't even snooping, it was just right in my face. The one I saw is the one where he was thanking her for her 'advice' and asking her to dinner. I had to fight the urge to vomit.
I think after he handed me his phone it must have clicked in his brain what I was going to see because he started acting overly nice and strange after that. I played it off and didn't say anything, but my heart was pounding out of my chest.
After that we went to a movie, and during one of the slightly sappy songs (kid's movie) he started crying. And cried through most of the movie. Afterwards I asked him what was wrong, he said it just made him sad (meaning being with me under the circumstances). I tell you what, after what I saw, and then the downturn in the mood, I was kind of ticked.
This was a day I had planned with D to have a good time. I didn't invite him, he invited himself and then goes and ruins it. I don't know if that is selfish of me, but I was over it. I don't mean to sound cold about his being upset, but geez! Can't we have a good time without drama?
I need to post more later about some of what we talked about- hope you guys can give me some insight.
