Well, Wendy ditched me! She said she very much enjoyed meeting me and that I am a "kind and sincere person" but she didn't feel the chemistry together. Fair enough. Again, at least here is another lady good enough to be honest. I appreciate that. Onwards and upwards!
Sorry about that. Sometimes the ones we find the most attractive don't find us attractive to them. It happens to everyone.
I agree with OT - something to consider.
Josh could not be less like Ex. He was not the picture I conjured up when I thought of my perfect guy yet when I met him - he was just what was perfect for me.
I like Wendy. I like her honesty. I think it was a good first time for both of you and that's what it is all about.
And there was no "dumping" involved. You were not an item. You met an interesting person and shared a coffee. Keep all your options open and keep "meeting".
Thanks Barb and OT, Actually Wendy wasn't my "type" but that was OK. I enjoyed her company and wanted to see if there was anything there. Sometimes it's better when the person isn't your "type". I wasn't looking for rockets to go off or anything during a two hour coffee date. I was just willing to date a few times and see how it went. She was nice, had a good outlook on life, we obviously had a rappport and she was attractive. I liked her. I didn't have any "soul mate" feelings, which I don't believe in anyway! But, I'm open to options. I ask women who aren't in my profession too. Let the adventure continue, small steps!
Right on! Yesterday I saw on the dating site a lady who does embalming for a living...and loves it Hmmm, but she wasn't blonde. Hey, Wendy is the third woman who has rejected me in two months...I'm on a roll! I've never been rejected so much in my entire life. But, what it shows is that I'm putting myself out there, taking a chance, making myself vulnerable and I'm still standing. So goody for me!
Definitely goody for you! It takes real courage to do what you are doing. I'm in complete awe of you!
I think they say the ratio is somewhere around 'for every 10 women you ask out you will get one yes. For every 10 you go out with 1 will lead to some sort of a R'.
Food for thought.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Wendy is also the 5th Asian woman in a row to reject you, at least 4 of whom also shared your W's profession.
W: Asian social worker CB: Asian social profession unknown MM: Asian social worker Office acquaintance: Asian social worker Wendy: Asian social worker
Let's see, who else have you approached or dated? Um, as far as I know, NO ONE.
If you can't see that this pattern is all about STBX and not letting go and trying to prove that you were right and good enough, I'm not sure what you think it is about. You have been *very* off on your assessment of each of these women's interest in you. So, the idea you have that you are good at understanding culturally asian women is false. If I were one of them, I'd find your dating history pretty darn creepy by this point.
What is the problem with the embalmer? She seems to have the virtue of not being like STBX. If your only objection is her job, I'd think again. I think many in that line of work think of it as a caring enterprise. Perhaps you could watch a few episodes of Family Plots: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Family_Plots, or read some Funeral Girl blogs: http://thefuneralgirl.com/.
Take a real chance and move more forward and less sideways.
