Confronted spouse...now he wont come home

[Abbey]

NB, you're doing great. You're at the place where my H and I were back in 2009. Take this slow, think of feeding your husband as you would try to feed a wild bird. Hold your hand out with birdseed in it but don't approach too quickly. Show interest, but don't overwhelm. Entice without scaring.

The feeling good about DBing and then feeling like a doormat IS extremely normal. It does feel like that at times. Thats why you need to really do the work on you. Once you feel you're doing that for yourself, then when you do inch into the relationship type convos,... let him initiate, be supportive and your relationship stuff needs to be like trying to feed a wild bird. You can affirm interest without being needy.

Keep it up!