That is very odd TMC, why is it your responsibility to set the timeline for the divorce? I feel so badly for you, it's so hard to understand H's behavior, he definitely seems off the reservation.

I don't know if he's planning on revealing GF, but maybe GF is there and he wants to feel better about it? Hard to say, you would know best.

I feel so badly for you, having a new baby is so hard, dealing with it by yourself is harder, and being involved in a marriage crisis at the same time is a triple whammy. You are a very strong person for coping as well as you are. Have you given any more thought to moving out?

You said "ups and downs", has H done anything to make you feel good lately? What have the ups been?

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015