Alcoholic H wants D part 2.....

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need some advice..
Tonight we have another Co Parenting session....Im not even sure why we are doing the sessions, It doesnt seem to be helping the sitch as far as H putting S14 first and spending more time with him so really, my first question is should I continue??...

second question is as I posted earlier the C brought up H spending thanksgiving with us (me and boys)...I have thought about it and it really cant happen right now, there are to many raw feelings at this point. What do I say and how do I handle it when she brings it up tonight? I dont want to sound bitter and I dont even really want to say anything about S28 being angry with H...so Im thinking a simple "its not a good idea"?????

Im aware that it will mean S14 maybe spending some time with H alone that day, S14 has said he doesnt really want to but im encouraging him. Im not going to push it though...Im not going to make him leave a family gathering to go and come back upset once again because his dad spent the whole time on the phone..or they sit at a resturaunt and H doesnt say a word to him the whole time.

The anger S14 is showing toward his D is makeing me wonder if maybe, while he was at his Ds house he has not seen or found something that has made him aware of OW.....I will not ask or bring it up EVER...but considering how inconsiderate H has been it would not surprise me. On top of my S14 is a pro snooper and there has never been a year at christmas that he has not found all his presents, no matter how hard i try..:) and if he even has the slightest clue about something..he is relentless...until he figures it out. even as Im typing this im realizing there is a real possibiliy that has happened..........would explain alot of his behavior.

To be honest ...i had hoped that the Co parenting sessions would maybe turn into some MC, but Im slowing realizing that if H is not interested in that its a waste of time. Yes he did volunteer to use his EAP so we could continue going, but not even sure why he did that as he is not takeing any of Cs suggestions and doesnt even make an attempt at the "homework" she gives him (do at least one thing a week with S14 alone, call him every night and tell him you love him...etc.)
I got his progress report Fri. 2 Fs and 2 D-....and H had no reaction at all.
my poor S is hurting....I feel like the only way i can help him is to totally detach and move on...so he can to i guess...