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Male friends are certainly fine. Pat Love has an excellent document on her web site about what's "over the line" in an EA.

My W was telling OM she loved him, she thought of nothing but him, she wanted to fly away to a beach with him, not being with him was torture, etc. Multiple "I love you" declarations per day. Lots of sneaking around and secret nights out for dinner and drinks, taking off work secretly to go for walks together for the afternoon, secretly meeting for drinks after work, having lunch together every day.

That, to me, is an "Emotional Affair". Having a male friend who you sometimes discuss your problems with is simply not the same. On the Pat Love site, she says that if you wake up and your first thought is of OM, if you dress to be appreciated by OM, if you are emotionally bound to OM to the exclusion of H, you're over the line.

Accuray


Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015