REQ: Looking for a thread from a fellow DBer...

[Abbey]

Westcoast, yep, the problem that I've been through with this, is that mine will take time. There really is no manual for this sitch, nor a one size fits all. Sometimes it's a combo of distance, rope dropping AND a disproportionate amount of closeness, even when you'd rather throttle the WAS.

Because mine has a child with this parasite, I'm partially relying on what worked last time, and bobbing and weaving through those hurdles again.

He did a few really boneheaded things this weekend with "her". And yet, he was cuddly Sat night, we even had sex again Sunday morning. He wants his cake and eat it too. What I've found from last time is: give them the cake for a while,... then put the hammer down and pull back. In otherwords, when the other relationship hits the bricks,... there's something for them to miss.

The big caveat with this whole thing is that we as LBS, may infact drop the rope so much that when all is said and done, it's going to be US that walks away for good. It's a chance we take with the type of effort that we need to put into trying to fix things. (If we can.)

I know if I can give this thing 6 months, preferably with this house sold quickly... this thing will blow up a lot faster.