My WAW text me today to ask if we could meet to discuss the settlement. I told her I was unable and she got upset. She went on a tirade that I was purposely slowing down the process, as she wants the D completed by the end of the year. Even if we reach an agreement by the end of the year, the D won't be finalized for a few months into 2012.
Regardless, I got upset..I know not ideal. I told her I was available last weekend, but she was unable. Her response...I didn't want to see you so close to our wedding anniversary. Is this my fault, I thought but didn't say anything. She then went on about how my not willing to redline the agreement was a tactic to delay the process.
It seems that she goes on her merry way and then all of of sudden when she realizes she has items left on her checklist, she then goes into task mode. I believe it's her way of trying to maintain control over the situation. She then criticized me on not keeping her up to speed on the shortsale process on our house. Have her kept abreast minute by minute? No. Why? When I ping her, she responds...I'm too busy at work to think about that now. Frustratingly when I do forward/copy her on emails regarding the sale, she hasn't reached out and then I get her wrath today.
At the end of our brief conversation, she's decided to come by the house on Monday night to discuss the agreement, something she's never wanted to do until now.
I'm struggling with doing what's best for me, how my WAW will perceive it and how it would affect any possible R. Intellectually, there is no signs of R, so I need to do what's best for me. Emotionally, I still haven't detached enough to let go.
I'm trying to prepare for the worst tomorrow. I'm going to ask for what I believe is rightful mine and I know my WAW will be upset. Sigh...it is what is...I wish it wasn't so. :-(
_______________________ M: 47; W: 39 M: 4.5 yrs; T: 18 years No children Separated: 01/19/11 Wife Served Papers: 02/1/11 Wife moved: 03/05/11 Responded: 04/14/11
