Amen to what JB said. It took me a while to realize he's right--It's absolutely true === it's better to be US than THEM. With the horrific gut wrenching pain comes self examination. You are both two of the most solid men I've 'known'.
Me (f): 45 W(f) 35 T: 13 y C: S4 adopted at birth 6-18-11 bomb: I want to break up 8-28-11 OW confirmed