Finally confronted H on affair...Now what????

[25yearsmlc]

kg,

sounds really good. You have a lot going for you. Even though he SAYS he wants you to move on, and part of him may well mean that, it'll stick in his craw to see all HIS HARD WORK on you, pay off for someone else

just as you feel that way about his OW and the house...

I love the fact that you have not spilled the beans with his family BUT that the mom will soon have to know..one way or the other but NOT from you...excellent

Very good for you in the LONG run...but take the long game picture.

And what's stopping you from dating? I am not suggesting it OR saying not to, but asking.

I DO feel that if you date, the kids are not to be involved until long into the R...or as my mc said,
"when you feel 3/4 of the way to commitment, THEN you introduce them and let the kids have reasonable veto power"...

b/c if the OM does not blend well, for any reason, it's a bad thing to do and no way for it to end well.

But that's not happening now, so we will leave that for another day.

Meanwhile, keep up the good work on YOU and stay upbeat.

I do feel that you are slightly pursuing with the texts, but that's a little thing.

I wish you'd let your h at least THINK you are moving on so he can let that sink in some. Believe me, he'll realize he IS losing something of great value and he will be forced to wonder if he is doing the right thing AND that's not even taking into account the role of OW and his family's likely response. ALL will NOT be well...don't imagine a happy T-day for him, no matter what. He'll be with OW and the kids and NOT twith his family...OR he'll be with all of them and oh the drama....

but what matters really, truly, is what YOU are doing then. ANd that better be having a special loving day for you.

If you keep GAL and doing 180s, I think time is on your side.

I really do.


((( )))