You can't force your H to wake up. Would you really want him back that way, anyway?
Your H hasn't even begun to deal with his issues and until if/when he does he'll keep riding the roller coaster and you'll be drug along for the ride.
One thing you have to remember is that MLC takes a long time to get through. If your goal is to save your M then you have to detach, and keep moving forward as if your H is not coming back. This prepares you for your life either way.
Patience is key. Please don't worry about what you said to your H about him making a move. MLCers are notorious for their bad memory and besides, you have a right to change your mind. Just say no more about it.
You'll definitely know when you've had enough, and if you are questioning it, you're not through yet.
