I mean come on, your W needs to grow up. She is the one missing out on the time with your kids, she will never get that back. Sorry to sound angry but I am feeling the same way right now regarding my H.
Keep up the DBing you are doing great
PS I think if you arent going out of your way to snoop there is nothing wrong with collecting all info you can to get the complete picture of what is going on.
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13