A fork in the road - EA admitted by wife

[NYCPeter]

I really don't know whether I want to be married right now.

What I do want is to spend as much time with my girls as possible.

The fact this has been going on a year has shocked me to the core. It all makes sense - she wouldn't have asked for a separation 6 months ago without a backup plan. The whole "I need space", "he's just a friend" - it's all so cliche, honestly.

Now her backup plan has collapsed it's bound to be a lot more uncomfortable for her. But do I want to be 2nd choice - even if she does want to work at the M some time in the future (she's not given any indication she wants to).

It may be selfish of me to say this - but I'm glad he's done this to her, guess what W - you wanted someone 10 years younger, well so does he. Guess what W - if you can cheat on your H he can certainly cheat on the person he's having an A with. Harsh - maybe, but I took action to make myself a better person and work on me and our M - W decided to pay for a hotel room and continue an A with "C-Dawg" while I am at home with the girls.

I'm glad I've been DBing - it's made me a much better father, husband and person.