just journaling.... after thinking about it I decided to have S14 go to his dads after all. I told him if he was upset with his D he needed to work that out with him and not complain to me about it. It was between him and his D and they would have to work it out. H picked him up and I was looking good and ready for my night out with friends. H didnt ask were I was going but came in and hung out for about 15 min. we chatted and I was upbeat since I was looking forward to my evening and told S14 I would pick him up in the morning. Yesterday H had called and left a message, The house sold and there was paperwork we needed to sign and he had been trying to get hold of me to arrange that. I have not been being as available as I have been before, but he finally got hold of me and asked if I could get the paperwork in the mail for him. I told him i could do that but yesterday ended up so busy by the time I got to postoffice they were closed. so sent him a message later letting him know that S14 would be coming with him for the evening and that I hadnt made the postoffice...then went about my day. later I got a text from him about not answering my phone and checked and there were 7 missed called from him...???? after he had already sent text about it being fine that i mailed the paperwork on Mon. and he would pick S14 up after his safey meeting...I didnt return the calls and didnt ask about it when he got there but thought it was funny that now that I have pulled back with the contact suddenly he is calling and texting ....DB does work LOL! Ive already gotten a good morning text to let me know S14 will prob sleep late but he left the house key for me....He would not have done that a week ago, he would have just let me and S14 work that out ourselves... Is this progress?? i dont know, I tend to see progress but then we will go to our Co parenting sessions on Mondays and there are steps back, but Im going to see this as positive and really be aware of what I say and how I react this Monday in our session and just let it be what it is. Its def an improvement on thing from the way they were 3 weeks ago... feeling hopefull this morning but not just because of this new contact, but because I am feeling stronger and not as paniced, and am able to sit back and think things through instead of reacting on the fly. I feel much more in control of my feelings lately and not as desperate as before. It must be showing...:)
Me:48 H:42 M: 18 yrs. S: 9/1/09 due to alcoholic H D bomb: 9/9/11 OW confirmed 10/30/11 D papers filed 11/01/11 S15 S21(Special needs) S28
Look to yourself, It is there that all your answers are found...