Volume III

[workinghardguy]

Just script TM, just script... She has to tell herself something otherwise there would have to be something more fundamentally wrong.

Or... and this is a theory I'm working on in my sitch right now. Maybe we did actually marry for the wrong reasons... I know crazy, right? But, my W has all these issues: abandonment, security, abuse history, alcohol issues, a drug history. I have issues too: caretaking, co-dependency, being the savior, etc... Those two combined to bring us together.

So maybe we did marry for the wrong reasons? Her needs were met by my behaviors but over time they really weren't. THey were a band-aid on a much deeper wound.

The difference is I want us to work on stuff together. I now realize the extent of our issues and want to work on it. She doesn't. I watched my mom go through hell and back with my dad and his illnesses and never leave him or abandon him. She watched her dad move through four wives and her mom through three husbands. So it doesn't take a rocket scientist to see why things are why they are.

I'm glad you're detached... I'm hoping I can get there soon too.