CO1978,

There may very well not be OM, you would know that better than anybody. Maybe she really does just need space. WRT the 2nd session, your friends aren't a very good guide unless they tried using DB techniques.

This situation can be so fragile and there are so many ways to go wrong, it's hard to use your friends' experiences as a guide. Read the books, do what you can to change yourself, and you'll have the best possible chance of turning things around.

Don't worry about averages, remember there are no deadlines. Take it slow and do it right.

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015