Lots of great advice here, especially from sandi2 and hopeful321. It really helps to hear from the WAW perspective. Chope good luck, I am in the same shoes with a WAW, I know the advice is easier said then done. Every time the W drops our S off or picks him up its feels almost like putting a mask on.
M 33 W 29 S 4 M 5 T 7 11/7/11 Separation, W moves in with parents 12/1/11 W: "IDLY, I'm not coming back, it's over" 1/7/12 D Bomb Dropped
Hopeful321 did you give your husband the ILYBNILWY speech.
No, I did not give him that speech at all. He just did not care what I needed and wanted from him. I told him that I loved him very much, but what I wanted was husband who wanted to spend time with me. I did not run out here and file papers. Our first court appearance standing in front of the judge, I was crying and asked for continuance. I really did not want a divorce. I tried to work it out with him, but he kept smothering me and would not give me my space. Then 6 months later, I felt like I did not have a choice but set the court date again. And this time, I went through with the divorce. But after the divorce, eventually he became the person that I wanted. I still love him, but not the way I should as a wife should. He makes a better friend than husband and I would not trade that for anything.
Are you telling your husband still had a chance if he would have just shut up.
If he would have given me time and space, I believe we would be married today. That is the reason why I had to my second husband the space that he asked for. Because, I did not want him to do me what I did to my first husband.
