telemark - I appreciate you feedback and I only wish you had been able to share it without your having lived it.
Yes, my W is sharing details of our marriage with the OM and she is getting validation from him when I want it to be from me.
I'm having a tough time with this. She looks at things i do with an eye towards whether or not my actions show her that I am moving on. The reality is that I am GAL but would rather be sharing my life with her. It's a sad irony that she questions me when I have been nothing less than 100% faithful all along and yet has absolutely no problem carrying on with the OM. The concept of GAL may work for me in that I build my strength to carry on without her if this doesn't work out but I do find she cannot handle anything I do without it making her think I am pulling away from her. The opposite is true. I want our marriage reconciled.
I am not confronting her. I am DB'ing pretty well and GAL. It's just that this GAL thing seems to really upset her. I'm not even doing anything that should cause her concern so I don't understand the massive double standard. Any ideas?
BTW, she out of state today with the OM and yet had the adaucity to question me about a one-line very innocent comment I got on Facebook from a female friend. I really don't get this reaction. Even with her full-blown MLC, her psychiatrist treatments and all I cant figure out how she cannot see the duoble standard here.
Also, BTW she does seem to be otherwise getting closer to me, or should I say not adverse to our being together which is a huge improvement from before. So maybe this DB'ing is working. I don't want to ruin a possible reconciliation but I am so confused by her negative reaction to my GAL, especially when she says I should be doing that. I don't need her to tell me that i should live my life but its so odd that she meticulously scrutinizes everything I do.
