2pt - I thank you immensely for the input and I think you are probably correct in your recommendations. Just knowing someone else gets what I am experiencing makes it easier, although I wish this upon no one else.
Today is a tough day for me with this issue. She has gone on a day trip out of state and I know will meet the OM. What I don't understand is how she can have the nerve to interogate me about my going to a mini high school reunion in which it was only meeting childhood friends, and then walk out the door to go for a day trip with the OM. I have never cheated nor never will so the hipocracy of this is astounding and very hurtful. How can she not see this? Do people in a MLC lose the ability to make rational judgements? Maybe that's a dumb question, but I'm amazed at this. While I am living a Mr Mom existance she questions my fidelity while involved in the EA the same day.
She keeps telling me she needs to get through this MLC or whatever you want to name it, and she needs to isolate herself from the pressure of our family while she sorts her life out. I am giving her the time and space to do that and I do see her slowly and infintisimal step by step look back to me and our family so maybe this might work out over some period of time, but I find the concept of GAL only backfires in a sense because she seems to feel that anything I do outside of our marriage indicates that I am fine with a so called separate life. She can't seem to understand when I explain to her that i would rather have each other be first in each others life but in her absense I am living my life.
I keep hearing that we should believe none of what we hear and half of what we see. So, if I hear my wife tell me there is no EA, only a friendship should I not believe it. I guess, like you said 2thepoint, that we should treat the OM as only a symptom. Great advice. Thanks!
