Confronted spouse...now he wont come home

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Somewhat of an update:
H is gone again as of early Friday. He called last night and we talked for a half hour. He was talking about potential reconciliation and I told him I would like to try...but ultimately, he needs to make his own decisions. He commented about how work is the only thing he feels like is going well right now, and he doesn't even really feel like work is going that well. He told me that we should talk more next weekend.

I felt like I did a good job staying with the DB principles. I was calm and acted interested in talking, but yet somewhat detached. I told him I know he needs time to work through things.

I did tell him a couple things from 5 LLs about how his job has been hard for me (and our current situation even harder) because one of the things I have learned I need from him is more quality time. I told him I think we each have different ways of feeling loved. I also told him that I think I'm more ready to listen about why he had his affair and how he feels. I acknowledged that I haven't been as good of a listener as I could have been through this. He then said I've been really good through this whole thing. He said he can't believe how well I am doing.

He said this is very hard on him. I said it's been just as hard or harder on me and he agreed.

He had dinner with a coworker last night and was at a hotel. He called and texted us several times later that night so I believe him.

Not sure what is happening with OW but I didn't ask him any questions. He may be seeing her tonight, who knows.

He will be back for Thanksgiving weekend. I also acted nonchalant about that and told him that if he needs to be away or work...I could just take the kids to do something fun. We will be at my parents for Thanksgiving day and he seems committed to that.

Is the fog lifting a bit? I hope so, but also know not to get my hopes up too high or have false hope.

He isn't saying his affair is over either although I hope his work craziness and coming home is at least somewhat annoying to OW.