So I did a 180 this morning. Normally I would have kept quiet, walked on eggshells and taken the scowls and silent treatment. We would have avoided each other for 2 days and then pretend that nothing happened..again.
My 180 was owning up to what I did, and acknowledging where I was wrong. I told him that he has a right to his personal space and there is no reason for me to look at his phone. There is no reason that I can't look at the other bills, they are in my name. I was apologizing for the phone last night.
He appreciated it, and really softened and said "It really was a misunderstanding, but I take my part in it because I changed up our routine with no notice and during a very tense time. I can understand".
Kudos Autumn! What a great 180 for you.. and to have him own up as well - just great.
This is how good communication starts. People get so wrapped up in their own feelings, their own selfishness.. that they don't even give their spouse the opportunity to be selfless.. they just assume they will be selfish...
...when in actuality - sometimes being caring helps the other person be caring also.
Communication does not change overnight.. but it CAN change.
Keep it up!
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
