That's a lot of boxes smile Hope its going well! It will be so nice when you can unload them and settle in.

Considering everything that went down last night, checking records and finding nothing in cell phone, credit cards or bank account, I have to take it at face value that there is no OW and let that go for now. I am not trying to be naive but there is nothing to show that there is, so it is extremely possible that it is just other issues. I know I have mine and he has his, but I only have to work on mine right now.

So I did a 180 this morning. Normally I would have kept quiet, walked on eggshells and taken the scowls and silent treatment. We would have avoided each other for 2 days and then pretend that nothing happened..again.

My 180 was owning up to what I did, and acknowledging where I was wrong. I told him that he has a right to his personal space and there is no reason for me to look at his phone. There is no reason that I can't look at the other bills, they are in my name. I was apologizing for the phone last night.

He appreciated it, and really softened and said "It really was a misunderstanding, but I take my part in it because I changed up our routine with no notice and during a very tense time. I can understand"

I ended the conversation without getting too much into R talk, and went to have some coffee. He got up and I was cleaning, listening to music and generally enjoying my morning. It was real, I felt less anxious and really tried not to think about my M for a change. I just wanted to enjoy a beautiful Saturday.

I am spending the day doing typical errands and starting some Christmas shopping. He took the boys golfing. They all seemed happy to go, and I am really happy for my sons. I think they all need that.

So I am happy the 180 worked for all to relieve some of the tension and it was the right thing to do. It is what I would do for any friend that I felt I may have wronged. Trying to come at it from that angle to keep me on track.

-Autumn