untethering

[aeolianchaos]

Hi Rick,

I appreciate your input as someone with perspective from the position of actually having to make a hiring decision.

I did follow up with all 5 people I met at the formal interview within 24 hours (I have had it drilled into me that this is good tradecraft). The H.M. and I had a phone conversation the next day and I let him know how I was impressed w/ everyone I met, excited about the company, and felt like the position would be a good fit.

He said I was definitely a candidate, but they wanted to interview a couple more people before making a decision. He said they would let me know either way by Fri or Mon. This was about 2 weeks ago, so it's been about a week since I would have hoped to hear something from them.

That is where we left it - I am hesitant to push it much further: They know I'm interested, without a doubt.

I did get to follow up with a few of the people I met the other day, sleuthing out their business e-mails, as well as the CEO who I met briefly (its a very small company). My basic strategy on these followups is to affirm that I enjoyed meeting them, demonstrate enthusiasm for something about their business, let them know something that I appreciated about our discussion or even provide some relevant info or ideas, and depending on the nature of the meeting possibly invite them to get back to me.

This seems to be my bigger focus at this point, beyond the (likely) imminent divorce - survival and thriving on my terms and doing my best to honor what is most real in me.

I'm sometimes a little bothered by how little I actually worry about WAW and what she is doing or thinking. I still care, and I think her coping mechanisms are going to lead her into a bad place down the road, but its so much out of my hands that I feel like putting energy into it is only useful if I'm thinking about how I want to move or act.