Welcome to the DB board. Newcomers have their initial posts monitored for a little while, so don't be discouraged if they seem slow showing up on the board.
Have you read Michele's book, The Divorce Remedy? If not, get that and study it. That information is the platform for this board's advice in helping each other through these times.
You will find a lot of support here. I hope you will post often and keep us updated.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
