The first chapter I suppose

[mindfull]

Autumn.

Good Lord. He could be a little more creative, as he's just textbook guilty. I'm sorry. I absolutely know what kind of anxiety you're living with...

Here's what I would do...

Wake up. Be pleasant, but distant. Go about your day. Enjoy your boys.

In the meantime, do you have access to his phone records, computer, etc?

I bet the cell phone records are quite telling. Also, I have an iPhone. In a txt, recipient message is on left, and my message is on right. Unless he's using an app.

If you can't get access to his cell records, I have a few idea to get the phone out of his hand as a joke... If he willingly gives it up, probably less likely to have anything to worry about. If he makes excuses, you probably have a problem.

Also, do you have access to bank card transactions, highway toll pass usage, cc statements,

If you find something, I guess you need to decide if you can forgive again, assuming he's truthful in wanting his family/marriage intact. It may take awhile to determine that...

Either way, without his knowledge, I'd first consult an attorney for advice on what you can do. Then, I'd schedule that MC appt, and present him with the facts there. No matter what you decide... You need to immediately ask him to move out, as you're not tolerable of infidelity. You need to do some thinking, without him around, without his influence. No matter his desire, you need space from him.

Find a way to calm your anxiety.
Gather your intel.
Consult the very best, kick as$ attorney.
Present your findings in MC.
Declare your space-Define your boundaries.

If you don't find anything, get in with that MC immediately, and define your boundaries regarding his moodiness, new "space", etc... He's just getting uglier.

I have to agree with your friends, especially after living through this ... He's absolutely acting very guilty.

I am so sorry.

I'll keep checking today, between moving crews.

I'm really pissy after reading this now. Ugh.