25 i am a little confused as to what you said to Tad about not being MLC because she left her home and kids? I thought this was part of MLC. Can you explain please?
Also, I understood Tad to say that his xw didnt want to be replaced as a MOM. I took this to mean she didnt want her boys to call anyone else MOM....not that she didnt want Tad to be with anyone else. I said the same thing....I was so worried my son, while living with dad and stepmom, would call HER MOM. I could be misunderstanding though, but I if this is the case I can kinda understand her worries of that. I mean she walked out on Tad and her kids, BUT didnt they have a choice of going with her. I mean they are older, its not like they are young boys, except for the 16 yr. old. DOnt get me wrong. I totally disagree with how she did it and I am so sorry this happened to Tad. She is a CASE that is for sure.
25 my xh STILL, after three years hates the sound of my voice. So the anger can last, dont know why, but it does. I am truly believe he is in MLC. Married a 26 yr. old and had a newborn! The man is in his 40's.
Tad the best thing you can do is COMPLETELY DETACH! It will help you move on, if you NEVER talk or see her for as long as you can go. It will be like she died, but this is the only way you are going to heal faster and in return she MAY stop being so vindictive and see you for what you are now. By seeing her even once a couple weeks, she is NOT going to except that youve changed. The BIG plus to this Tad is its best for your boys. I know you have a son underage, but is there anyway one of your other sons can pick him up when needed, so you can avoid her for awhile? Tad I know each time she is NICE to you, it gives you hope. Its not working! This is just a mood change. Please understand it will be a while before she actually gets her mind back. This is your only hope Tad for getting back together in the future. You have got to go on and get her completely out of your life for now. Pretend it is over for good....just pretend. Believe me the longer you are away and dont here from her the easier it will get. Tad I hate to tell you this, and I know everybody is different, but it has been 3 years and no talking to my xh at all, well except the couple times i tried to call about my son and he hung up on me, and I STILL have times that I miss him. It will take A LONG WHILE, be Patient with yourself and dont stop Praying, even though things ease up. Get her out of the picture Tad. Do it for you and your Boys! It will be hard....believe me I know. BUt you dont have a choice, unless you enjoy punishment and seeing your kids suffer from this....and THAT I KNOW you dont....so DETACH COMPLETELY!
