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[learning2listen]

Well lets see here, this week was eventful to say the least..

a bill collector called my h at work and made all kinds of threats.. he then called me and said if any of these threats actually happen I will not see a dime from him.. and we should move forward with the divorce. this is the first mention of d since the beginning.

I called the collector and solved the problem, called h and said he would need to pay half. I also said fine with the d.. I am sick of the threats and if it is what he wants to do then do it, stop threating me with it when things get tough.

It was very hard to do this but it made him stop talking so mean and actually speak with me about the debts. he offered to pay half and made no mention again of the D.

I then had to fly out to see my mother who had a stroke recently, and he was to stay with the kids. I had mixed feelings of this, but I decided it would be ok and right now I can not deal with his issues, my family needs me to help my mother.

today i sent a text because i havent heard anything from him as to how it was going. I just said "is everything going ok?" and about an hour later he called. I was unable to answer because i was at the hospital and couldnt return the call for quite a while..

when i did, he asked how my mom was and how i was doing. then he said he may be out of a job soon, he received a letter that indicated they could be closing his place of employment. I told him i was sorry to hear that and wished him good luck on the job hunt. I asked if he could leave my house key on the counter when he leaves tomorrow.

I think I left him feeling pretty confused.. I was nice, and compassionate of his situation, but this is not my problem anymore, I do not have to deal with the constant up and down of his job. he quits his job pretty consistantly every couple of years.

He said he couldnt believe his boss has lied to him for so long, I said i was sorry. I didnt really offer any solutions which is a huge 180 for me. If he wants to do this on his own I guess this is something he will need to face alone.