J3B, you have a point there. I am a doctor, so I have no inhibitions about this topic. Yes, taking matters into your own hands is actually a very normal thing. And women do it too. Not excluding myself. Its a biological urge, not gender specific, but truly, tied to libido and drive. I learned to do this as a child, not even knowing what it was about, just that it was pleasurable. And I discovered as I grew older that my classmates and friends knew it too. None of us were sexually active at that time (early teens).
The things that affect this are usually religious, and I understand, being Catholic myself.I used to be so guilty about it.
But maturity and understanding and medical knowledge helped me get over this.
Part of loving is accepting each other as sexual beings, and not letting our hang-ups and inhibitions color our judgement of our spouses.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go