Living with groundlessness

[AntoniaB]

And THAT is the mantra I'm telling myself hearafter till the right one comes along, ha ha!!

I was reading an article that said that for most women dating online, the most attractive quality about a man's profile is confidence, that confidence without being cocky can trump average or poor looks any day; conversely, LOW on the list for men reading profiles of women is seeing them being confident. Most men online are threatened by this. What they tend to want, and the women whose profiles are hit on the most, are women who talk about how happy they are but who reflect a bit of neediness.

Now see, I'm not going to lie to get attention. I don't think "happiness" is the end all, be all anymore. I think peacefulness, or being able to handle problems ok, or yes, confidence in yourself/career/aspirations is the most important thing. And accd. to that one study, anyway, the very things that are important to me turn men dating online away, but they attract women; hence, this is why I have no trouble getting compliments from complete strangers as long as they are women ;-)