Part of the problem though is denial. Spouses often come here with blinders on and refuse to see what's happening under their noses. If you're not blunt enough precious time that could have been used to save the relationship is lost. I don't know how many times I've read the same story over and over again about the spouse who has become "distant" and has asked for "space", when in reality they've already made the steps to leaving the relationship and are heavily involved in a EA. I don't think that should be baby-stepped.
