Please don't misread my intent. I'm surely not suggesting that it all has to be sunshine and cheer. I also am not suggesting that anyone be untruthful. I appreciate the straight talk and I too want honesty both good and bad.
However, tone is everything. And as I'll bet we've all experienced either at work, or with friends or family, an email or other written message can so easily be misconstrued. I am agreeing with you that I too want the truth. Truth and opinion are not the same. But, I want opinions also.
I'm only suggesting that we be careful how we present things. When you want to present bad news, imagine the person is sitting there in front you, maybe in tears as he/she is going through the worst time in their life. Maybe it's their very first post. Is there more than one way to say what you want to say? It's not much different than what we're all working on in someway or other with the relationship that brought us here.
Delivering an important message (truth or opinion) will be taken much more to heart if presented the proper way.
